We are not alone in this world. We are surrounded by many other people: by our family, our community, our country, and the world.
We
have different relationships with different people. These
relationships or bonds are important. They can help us –
or cause problems...
or cause problems...
Who are my peers?
Peers can be friends, brothers, sisters, and classmates.
Peers are all the children in a child’s environment of the same age and with a certain relationship to the child.
Peer relations are an important factor in a child’s behaviour.
Peers can be friends, brothers, sisters, and classmates.
Peers are all the children in a child’s environment of the same age and with a certain relationship to the child.
Peer relations are an important factor in a child’s behaviour.
Relationships
We are all social beings. When we are born, we completely depend on the care of others (our caregivers) to stay alive. From our earliest moments we are related to other people.
While growing up, the network of relationships expands. Alongside our family we find ourselves involved with friends, peers, teachers and other important people in our community or society.
We are all social beings. When we are born, we completely depend on the care of others (our caregivers) to stay alive. From our earliest moments we are related to other people.
While growing up, the network of relationships expands. Alongside our family we find ourselves involved with friends, peers, teachers and other important people in our community or society.
Interaction with others
Through relations with others we learn how to function in society. We develop an awareness of how others see us. We learn how to control our own behaviour to make it acceptable for others. The input from these ‘others’ is crucial for developing the ‘self’, the appropriate (gender) role, and appropriate social behaviour. Our personal morality is formed by interaction with others.
Relationships with others also provide us with the warmth and the emotional and physical support that we all need.
Through relations with others we learn how to function in society. We develop an awareness of how others see us. We learn how to control our own behaviour to make it acceptable for others. The input from these ‘others’ is crucial for developing the ‘self’, the appropriate (gender) role, and appropriate social behaviour. Our personal morality is formed by interaction with others.
Relationships with others also provide us with the warmth and the emotional and physical support that we all need.
Look around... who do you trust?
...your peers are important to you!
...your peers are important to you!
Relationships with peers
In this module we will focus on the child’s relationships with their peers. The word ‘peers’ refers to all the children in a child’s environment of the same age and with a certain relationship to the child. Peers can be friends, brothers, sisters, and classmates.
Children learn many of their social skills through their peers. This process starts around pre-school age (from 3 to 6) and continues through middle childhood (6 to 11) and adolescence (12 to 18).
In this module we will focus on the child’s relationships with their peers. The word ‘peers’ refers to all the children in a child’s environment of the same age and with a certain relationship to the child. Peers can be friends, brothers, sisters, and classmates.
Children learn many of their social skills through their peers. This process starts around pre-school age (from 3 to 6) and continues through middle childhood (6 to 11) and adolescence (12 to 18).
How does it work?
Unlike adult-child relationships, peer relationships are based on equality. Children can negotiate the terms of their relations with peers and friends in ways that are not possible with adults.
They develop a capacity for friendship and solidarity based on reciprocity (“I do something for you; you do something for me”). Peers learn lessons from each other about right and wrong, loyalty, and empathy. They experience what happens if they hurt someone's feelings or betray their trust.
Unlike adult-child relationships, peer relationships are based on equality. Children can negotiate the terms of their relations with peers and friends in ways that are not possible with adults.
They develop a capacity for friendship and solidarity based on reciprocity (“I do something for you; you do something for me”). Peers learn lessons from each other about right and wrong, loyalty, and empathy. They experience what happens if they hurt someone's feelings or betray their trust.
Play and learn
Children often define and exercise their peer relationships through play. War Child Holland recognises positive peer interaction as one of the five protective factors of children’s well-being. For that reason we use (guided) play throughout I DEAL. The exercises in this module attempt to promote positive peer relations.
Children often define and exercise their peer relationships through play. War Child Holland recognises positive peer interaction as one of the five protective factors of children’s well-being. For that reason we use (guided) play throughout I DEAL. The exercises in this module attempt to promote positive peer relations.
My friends accept me for who I am!
Friendship with peers
Children who form sustainable friendships and gain acceptance within their peer groups are more likely to do well in school and in the long run, in life. Close friendships provide adolescents in particular with the basis for developing greater self-knowledge.
You need a good friend for mutual reflection. Young people tend to discuss their problems, feelings, fears and doubts with their best friends rather than with their parents. Peers, especially good friends help each other to think through their issues more clearly and competently.
Children who form sustainable friendships and gain acceptance within their peer groups are more likely to do well in school and in the long run, in life. Close friendships provide adolescents in particular with the basis for developing greater self-knowledge.
You need a good friend for mutual reflection. Young people tend to discuss their problems, feelings, fears and doubts with their best friends rather than with their parents. Peers, especially good friends help each other to think through their issues more clearly and competently.
Goals of the module 'Peer Relations':
The children develop more ‘tools’ to engage in positive peer interaction.
Sessions:
1. Who are my peers?
2. Difficult situations with peers
2A. How to deal with conflict?
3. Friendship
The children develop more ‘tools’ to engage in positive peer interaction.
Sessions:
1. Who are my peers?
2. Difficult situations with peers
2A. How to deal with conflict?
3. Friendship
Session 1: Who are my peers?
Goal: The children have identified the different relations they have with their peers and have analysed these different relations.
In this first session, the children learn to realise who their peers are: brothers, sisters, friend, classmates, etc. You will help them to be aware of their social environment.
Goal: The children have identified the different relations they have with their peers and have analysed these different relations.
In this first session, the children learn to realise who their peers are: brothers, sisters, friend, classmates, etc. You will help them to be aware of their social environment.
Session 2: Difficult situations with peers
Goal: The children have learnt ways of dealing with difficulties in peer interactions.
The second session gives the children insight in the kind of interaction they experience with their peers. You will discuss ways of communication and the complications that can arise in any relationship.
Goal: The children have learnt ways of dealing with difficulties in peer interactions.
The second session gives the children insight in the kind of interaction they experience with their peers. You will discuss ways of communication and the complications that can arise in any relationship.
Session 2A: How to deal with conflict?
Goal: The children have learnt some peaceful ways of dealing with in their lives.
If, in session 2, you have encountered too many conflict situations to be dealt with in one single session you can add this extra session, session 2A, 'How to deal with conflict'. It will elaborate on peer conflict.
Goal: The children have learnt some peaceful ways of dealing with in their lives.
If, in session 2, you have encountered too many conflict situations to be dealt with in one single session you can add this extra session, session 2A, 'How to deal with conflict'. It will elaborate on peer conflict.
Session 3: Friendship
Goal: The children have learnt how to give and receive support/care to and from their peers and friends.
In the third session, you will facilitate the children to understand what friendship means. They will learn to understand why people need trust and cooperation to build enduring friendships. You will help them to reflect on these and other elements of good relationships with their peers.
Goal: The children have learnt how to give and receive support/care to and from their peers and friends.
In the third session, you will facilitate the children to understand what friendship means. They will learn to understand why people need trust and cooperation to build enduring friendships. You will help them to reflect on these and other elements of good relationships with their peers.
Let's work together...
and start this session!
and start this session!
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